obviously i will go and collect ds1, that isn't a problem. i texted again at 12.35 telling him i needed an aswer so i knew whether to collect ds1 from school or not and reminded him taht he promised to ring this morning. i texted him at 11.45 asking what his plans were. he said "i will ring you in the morning" i made him promise saying that i had things to do today and if he was going to take both dcs then i would wait til then to do the grocery shopping as it would be easier without the dcs, but if he was only taking ds1 then i would go in the morning and then get back to my house packing in the afternoon while ds2 slept. he said he would let me know that and whether he was taking both boys or just ds1. i asked if he would lift ds1 from school or should I. so he ummed and ahhed about whether to take both or just ds1. yesterday evening he had ds1 and when he brought him home he said he would take both of them again today, asked how ds2 was in the cinema, i said i wouldn't recommend it. i pointed out that he had said that before and it hadn't happend. he promised then that he would try harder. i got so frustrated and upset one time that i told him his behaviour had caused me to miss lunch with my friend and that her day was now messed up too, to try and make him realise that otehr people are affected by his behaviour. i can't just make myself unavailable for the day and take the dcs because they know he is on leave and want to see him. but the thing is, i want to be able to make plans and i cant as long as i am waiting on him to decide what he's doing. this is fine on a saturday/sunday if i have no plans. he will either reply saying "on my way now" or he will not reply but just turn up at the house. so i text again asking him to let me know if he is still having the boys.
i give it an hour (by which point it is usually 2/3pm) and ring him, no answer. i will text him asking what is happening and he will usually not reply. so the morning will come and go and no phonecall.
i push him for a time and he says he will ring me first thing in the morning to let me know. i ask what time, he says he will let me know as he doesn't know his plans. he will text/ring asking to have the boys on X day. i want them to see him as much as possible, i have no concerns about them while he has them etc. i am happy for him to have the dcs for the entire time he is home if that's what he wants (it never is) so this isn't an issue about him having contact. he could be home 3 weekends in a row and then not back again for 6 weeks so we have no formal arrangement and it would be pointless to try and set one up. i have spoken to him, i have broken down in tears out of frustration and he promised it would change and it hasn't.ĮXP is forces and doesn't have regular leave. This happened throughout our relationship and is still happening now WRT dcs.
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